Thing #1: Write and send a letter to an old friend.
Let’s be honest, letters are one of the most intimate forms of nonverbal communication. In a world as connected though technology as ours, taking the time out of your day to write and send a letter may seem too hard. That’s why I decided to include a lot of writing and conversation in my list of things, the very first being writing and sending a letter to an old friend.
I won’t talk about the contents of my letter but I can talk about the person I sent it to. She has been my friend for over ten year and our relationship runs deep in that our parents and siblings are all friends too. When I moved across the country eight years ago, she was one of the few people I tried to stay in touch with but, inevitably, we did grow apart. I decided to write to her because her friendship has been one of the few constant things in my life, always there if I ever needed it but not an all consuming thing.
Friends, whether met on the internet or though everyday interactions, just may be the most underutilized and underestimated resource we have. They remind us that there are people out there who share our views and our hobbies, who enjoy spending time with us, and ultimately think we are worth sharing their lives with. Friendship is weird in that everyone has a different view on what it is. To some, a friend is just a person that you enjoy spending a lot of time with. To others, the true measure of friendship is how willing you are to take a bullet for someone.
Snail mail may be annoying to deal with but I believe that a good old handwritten letter provides a touch of personalization, a feeling of importance, and the idea that the person opening the seal in a couple of days is worth your time.